Domestic violence increases in time of stress and Shelter In Place type orders. At the same time, it can be even harder for victims of domestic violence to access services or even safely call for help living in close quarters. All North Olympic domestic violence agencies are answering intake calls and providing services, although their in-person services may be limited to some degree by social distancing needs. The state government is aware of the issues and is adding extra support and resources for DV agencies that can help you.
If you know someone who is in need of help, please consider being proactive and reaching out to them directly.
Free legal help. Ask your DV advocates about available pro bono legal services.
If you are suffering during a Shelter In Place (or Stay Home, Stay Safe) type order, Job #1 to protect you and your children is managing the emotional instability of your partner, and avoiding actions that can lead to significant and dangerous behavior escalations, especially while you take steps to protect yourself.
Rejection Begets Aggression
Understanding how your own behavior can be perceived as a rejection which can lead to angry and violent outbursts is extremely important. The article Rejection Begets Aggression, Beware, discusses different types of relationship-related rejections and offers some solutions to help you cope in a difficult Shelter In Place situation.
Job #2, don’t hesitate to reach out for help. Our local agencies are here just for you and they very much want to do everything they can for you. Please be mindful to reach out in a way that is safe. You can ask a stranger at the grocery store, or neighbor, to call a local agency and have them call you from a line with their Caller ID blocked during time periods that are safe for them to call you.
Job #3, make an exit plan, or just bolt if you have the opportunity and a place to go, or if your life is in danger. Google “DV safety plan” for ideas, and DV agency advocates offer free help to develop or refine an exit plan. They can also help connect you with resources when you leave. Most agencies have a 24/7 crisis line (listed below).
Domestic violence hurts you and your children. Even in this difficult time of a pandemic, there are people who can help you and places you can go. You don’t have to put up with abuse.
North Olympic Domestic Violence Agencies
Please note, it doesn’t matter where you live on the peninsula, these agencies will help you.
Healthy Families, Port Angeles
COVID-19 update page: http://www.healthyfam.org/emergent-information/
Homepage: http://www.healthyfam.org/
(360) 452-HELP (4357), 24/7 crisis line
Their doors may be locked during the Stay Home, Stay Safe orders, but they are taking calls and continuing to help every way they can.
Mariposa House, Clallam County and Forks
https://mariposahouse.org/
(360) 374-CARE, a 24-hr Crisis Line
Lower Elwha Family Advocacy
https://www.elwha.org/departments/lower-elwha-family-advocacy/
Contact: Beatriz Arakawa
360.452.8471 x7453
360.460.1745 via cell phone
Dove House, Port Townsend
https://www.dovehousejc.org/
360-385-5292 during regular business hours
24/7 crisis line: 360-385-5291
Their doors may be locked during the Stay Home, Stay Safe orders, but they are taking calls and continuing to help every way they can.
The article above represents the opinion of Mark Baumann. Please contact Mark if you have comments.