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Clallam Resilience Project: Ecotherapy and vocalization techniques for grounding

June 6, 10:00-11:30 a.m. This session of the Clallam Resilience Project will feature two presenters, Mindy Gelder and Noah Smith, both addressing somatic approaches to resilience building.

http://us02web.zoom.us/j/89928194489?pwd=Nmx4NkZ2eVpZbldNYk9tY2k4YUJNZz09

Ecotherapy techniques for grounding and emotion regulation

Mindy Gelder, PhD has been working as a licensed marital and family therapist for the past 23 years. About ten years ago, she grew tired of more traditional means of counseling and of sitting in a chair all day. Her own passion for the natural world led her to pursue a certification in Ecotherapy, and today, she can be found taking clients on beach walks, hosting Ecotherapy workshops, and engaged in somatic approaches to help others heal and connect with the natural world and their own authentic human selves.

Join us as she shares a little about Ecotherapy and provide some specific exercises to help folks connect with nature and its healing elements.

Self, Community and Singing

Featuring presenter Noah Smith (they/them), Director, Peninsula Queer Xhoir, Director of Music Ministries, Holy Trinity Lutheran Church, Dean, American Guild of Organists Olympic Peninsula Chapter.

The act of singing and musical vocalization offers many interpersonal and intrapersonal benefits, working against trauma and isolation. In this presentation, Noah Smith will explore how singing can be utilized in many settings as an activity that may unlock possibilities and solutions.

Clallam Resilience Project

You are invited to the monthly Clallam Resilience Project Community Meeting every first Tuesday at 10am until 11:30.

View the Clallam Resilience Project Community Meeting webpage for upcoming meeting information and past meeting minutes/resources/more.  

Join Zoom Meeting https://us02web.zoom.us/j/89928194489?pwd=Nmx4NkZ2eVpZbldNYk9tY2k4YUJNZz09 Meeting ID: 899 2819 4489  Passcode: HOPE

Questions? Contact [email protected].

The Clallam Resilience Project is a United Way of Clallam County program.

Clallam Resilience Project: Resilience in the face of love and grief

The Clallam Resilience Project will host a Zoom meeting on Resilience in the Face of Grief and Love, presented by Astrid Raffinpeyloz, Volunteer Services Manager at Volunteer Hospice of Clallam County.

The meeting is Tuesday, March 7th 10-11:30, on Zoom.

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How does the staff at Volunteer Hospice provide care and support despite witnessing and accompanying others with frequent losses? We don’t have all the answers, but we hope that you can come away from this presentation with a few more tips and tools in your bag. Come gain a deeper understanding of how grief and love are intertwined.

You are invited to the monthly Clallam Resilience Project Community Meeting every first Tuesday at 10am until 11:30.

View the Clallam Resilience Project Community Meeting webpage for upcoming meeting information and past meeting minutes/resources/more.  

Join Zoom Meeting https://us02web.zoom.us/j/89928194489?pwd=Nmx4NkZ2eVpZbldNYk9tY2k4YUJNZz09 Meeting ID: 899 2819 4489  Passcode: HOPE

Questions? Contact [email protected].

The Clallam Resilience Project is a United Way of Clallam County program.

Peace Discipline programs winter 2023

Peace Discipline offers a fabulous and rich set of parenting and discipline guidelines designed to help children maximize their neural development and psychological health. It’s the perfect antidote for the stress of todays world. They have four upcoming programs. These are on Zoom and are small group sessions at a cost of $20 each, and taught by PD creator Karen Quail. Karen is a school counselor and parenting skills researcher and author.

Boundaries with Adolescents Thurs 26th January 2023

Peace Discipline Applied: ADHD in the Classroom Thurs 2nd February 2023. This is a workshop and people joining are welcome to ask questions and share their experiences.

High Sensitivity and Autism in Families and Schools Thursdays 9th and 16th Feb 2023

Temperament Wednesdays 22nd Feb; 1st, 8th & 15th March 2023

Click here for details and registration information. Karen Quail is located in South Africa, and since the programs begin at 7:00 pm South African time, they happen at 9:00 am Port Angeles / Seattle time. It’s a special opportunity see how parents face the same struggles everywhere in the world, and to hear Karen Quail’s simple, easy, and effective techniques. Plus, you get a tiny and virtually-warm vacation where it is summer-time in South Africa.

You can see all of Karen’s free videos on the Peace Discipline YouTube channel.

Clallam Resilience Project: NOHN, the Olympic Peninsula’s community health center: a vision for resilience

Why are community health clinics a model for resilience? 

Is it the ability for “upstream” engagement? 

Or addressing the social determinants of health? 

Come learn about North Olympic Health Network (NOHN) from Carlos Osorio, Community Outreach and Navigation Department Manager.  He will speak to how NOHN serves our community by connecting residents with resources, like the mobile clinic, that help them get and stay healthy. 

Meeting details

January 3, 2023, from 10:00 a.m. to 11:00 a.m.

Hosted by Carlos Osorio, North Olympic Health Network

Join Zoom Meeting

  • Meeting ID: 899 2819 4489  Passcode: HOPE  
  • Dial in by phone: +1 253 215 8782     Phone Passcode: 706561

Hosted by the the Clallam Resilience Project, a United Way of Clallam County project.

For more information, contact Sydney Crowe, program manager for the Clallam Resilience Project, [email protected].

Clallam Resilience Project: Creating new pathways to healing with the R.E.A.L. team

Join us on December 6th from 10-11:30 at the Clallam Resilience Project’s monthly Community Meeting to learn from the R.E.A.L team about their mission: to improve the lives of people they serve through Recovery Empowerment Advocacy & Linkage, while promoting dignity, health, and self-sufficiency.

Come learn about available support systems and materials including:  Substance Abuse resources, and behavioral health resources.  Perhaps you have someone in your life who is struggling and could use extra support? In this presentation you will learn about the wide range of services available through the REAL Program and how you can connect someone you care about to services in our community.

  • Join Zoom Meeting
  • Meeting ID: 899 2819 4489  Passcode: HOPE  
  • Dial in by phone: +1 253 215 8782     Phone Passcode: 706561

Parenting with ASD and ADHD: Peace Discipline training

Karen Quail is offering two 2-hour Zoom training classes on how to apply her Peace Discipline parenting techniques with children who have an autism spectrum disorder or ADHD diagnosis. Each class is $20.

Karen Quail’s mission is to help parents raise healthy children with the best parenting techniques. Her 5-year research study uncovered the best techniques identified with high quality scientific studies. She is a kind and excellent teacher who offers useful real-world examples, and CCB.com highly recommends her classes. Karen is located in Cape Town, South Africa. The classes start at 7:00 p.m. South Africa time, which is conveniently at 9:00 a.m. Seattle time. (Double check the time with Google after the switch to daylight savings.)

The two workshops below are focused on applying Peace Discipline techniques, so bring your questions.

Boundaries with teenagers: Peace Discipline training

Peace Discipline is offering a one day training on holding boundaries with teenagers. Topics will include alcohol and other substances, managing screen time, dating, and more. Questions from participants are encouraged. Registration information is below.

Peace Discipline is one of the best parenting models and based on state of the art parenting and relationship science. The Peace Discipline toolkit of discipline techniques is available free, as is the research their program is based on.

The boundaries with teenagers class is offered online on Thursday, August 4, 2022, from 10:00 a.m. to noon (Port Angeles time). The class is free if you make a donation to Funda Lali.

Karen Quail and Peace Discipline

Peace Discipline was developed by Karen Quail who lives in South Africa. The class time is 7-9pm in South Africa, which is 10am-noon in Port Angeles. It will be a great opportunity to meet parents on another continent who are struggling with the exact same issues you are.

Funda Lali is a South African non-profit organization supporting under-resourced schools in rural areas.

Karen Quails mission in life is to help reduce violence by starting with parents and their children. Her parenting techniques brilliantly help parents guide their children with love and kindness to help their children optimize their neural development.

Registration information

To register, go to the Funda Lali web page, https://fundalali.org.za/ and make a donation.

Your donation will be in Rand, which is the name of the South African currency. Karen is asking for a 100 Rand donation, which is about $6 in U.S. money. The normal price for the class is 300 Rand which is just under $20 U.S. On the first screen where you are asked to make a donation, put in the amount of Rand. On the next page you’ll see the amount with “R” in front of it. You will get other confirmations that the donation was in Rand.

Then forward your receipt to Karen Quail at [email protected], and ask to be registered.

Then, enjoy! Karen is a delightful speaker who offers lots of practical advice and good examples. See you there!

Positive discipline techniques – The Peace Discipline model is based on quality research

How do you discipline children without spanking or even yelling at them? The trick is to take a broad-based approach that incorporates several techniques. One of the problems to finding the right techniques has been that low quality research studies have led to suggestions which don’t work, or even backfire. Karen Quail, a teacher, school counselor, and researcher in South Africa dug into the problem and after figuring it out over a 5-year study, she developed a list of easy to implement techniques, and has made them available on her Peace Discipline website.

One example of a misunderstanding of parenting techniques is time-out and time-in. Highly respected researcher Dan Siegel promoted the idea of time-in (not isolating children because that can be a harsh rejection). Many people immediately assumed he meant that time-out was a bad idea. However, research shows that both methods are effective, if used in the right way, and at the right times.

South Africa has had a long history of harsh parenting, and Karen Quail was working on helping her country learn to take a new approach. As she was teaching, parents kept asking her, “Well, what do I do if I can’t hit them or yell at them?” She had some instinctual ideas, but she wanted to know what research recommended so she could give good advice. After she looked at lots of research studies and their recommendations, she realized that many of them contradicted each other, and often recommended techniques which seemed instinctively wrong to her. When she looked further, she realized many of the studies were not done properly and didn’t qualify as reliable science.

Massive research study on effective parenting discipline techniques

So to address the problem of poor science, she set out to do some good research science. She started by reading the abstracts (research summary) of over 35,000 research studies. (Yeah, that’s a lot.) From there, she tossed out studies that used ineffective research methods, and focused on meta-studies, which are research studies which look at many other studies. She eventually selected over 200 meta-studies to examine, and she compared all their findings, and organized what she was seeing. This took her five years! The result of her work is amazing. She was able to sort out a fairly small list of what she calls nonviolent parenting techniques which are all solidly supported by research. She calls the list a Peace Discipline Toolkit.

When she was done, she started to work on a book. But then she realized the purpose of her life’s work is to help parents, so she decided to make her Toolkit available for free on the internet. In addition, she offers free and quick YouTube videos. For parents who want a little more guidance, she offers online parenting classes at a very reasonable price. While South Africa is in a different Time zone, she offers them in the warm South African evenings so people in the U.S. can join them in the morning on the west coast and middle America, and around the lunch hour on the east coast.

Resources

You can find a summary of her research in the Child Discipline article on Wikipedia.

You can find her Toolkit on Peace Discipline.

Karen has a YouTube channel with a series of brief and pointed talks about how to implement Peace Discipline.

You can read her research study (advanced level reading), and a summary of her findings on each nonviolent discipline tool, which is freely available at Research (peacediscipline.com).

Peace Discipline techniques are consistent with the SNACCMS activities concept for helping children develop optimal neural growth, and with attachment informed parenting techniques.

ClallamCountyBar.com highly recommends Peace Discipline to all parents.

Karen Quail

Karen lives in Cape Town, South Africa, and has a background as a school counsellor and teacher. She now works independently, coaching and running workshops on non-violent discipline and related topics. 

Karen’s research on non-violent discipline skills was a part of her psychology masters at the University of Cape Town.

Quail, K. R., & Ward, C. L. (2020). Nonviolent Discipline Options for Caregivers and Teachers: A Systematic Overview of the Evidence. Trauma, Violence, & Abuse, Copyright © 2020. DOI: 10.1177/1524838020967340. It is available (at a cost) at sagepub.com/journals, and Karen has made it available at no cost at https://www.peacediscipline.com/research.html.

CLE: Secondary trauma and self care

Secondary Trauma & Self Care, a CLE by the Clallam Resilience Project.

Wed, Nov 4th, 9:00-11:00am
Free
This training will explain Secondary Traumatic Stress, Compassion
Fatigue and Vicarious Trauma. Participants will be able to
recognize warning signs and personal triggers, understand the
importance of self-care, and develop a personal self-care plan.

Click here to register:
https://centene.zoom.us/meeting/register/tJwofuCvrT4iGNGSAMz0yuxUuYlcF6ekeBKS

This is the last of the four resilience trainings by the Clallam Resilience Project for 2020.

The Clallam Resilience Project is a service of the United Way of Clallam County. The ACEs Study session is the first of four trainings in September, October, and November.

CLE: Fostering resiliency in children by Clallam Resilience Project

Resiliency
Wed, Oct 21, 9:00-11:00am
Free
This training provides information on how to foster resilience in
children. It looks at factors such as the human adaptive process,
core protective systems, and ways to cope with trauma. The
training ends with a discussion around how caregivers can help
their children feel safe, capable and loveable.

Click this link to register:
https://centene.zoom.us/meeting/register/tJwpduitqzwvHNStZ_PJtwF2H_8LlN8cuLZf

The Clallam Resilience Project is a service of the United Way of Clallam County. The ACEs Study session is the first of four trainings in September, October, and November.

Upcoming CLE’s by the Clallam Resilience Project

Secondary Trauma & Self Care
Wed, Nov 4th, 9:00-11:00am
Free
This training will explain Secondary Traumatic Stress, Compassion
Fatigue and Vicarious Trauma. Participants will be able to
recognize warning signs and personal triggers, understand the
importance of self-care, and develop a personal self-care plan.